Things are not getting any better. Even though referrals were given recently it doesn’t get us any closer to our adoption. In fact some things are becoming increasingly difficult. With the Hague Convention being put into practice in the US, we may be in big trouble.

The Hague Convention is indeed a good thing for everyone. But there is a clause called "Habitual Resident" in which we are in a very grey zone. In fact, there are regulations on where you live and for how long as to whether you can adopt or not. It is to protect children from being run off to unknown countries and to assure their new nationalities.

but because we live in the UK, and neither of us are British we are in that very grey zone. Some rumors say that we have to reside in the US immediately after the adoption for 2 years (something we cannot do). Other rumors say that we just have to promise to live in the US before the child's 18th birthday.

I have written to the US Immigration Department for an official answer to our situation. Should the Hague require us to live in the US now, we will have to abandon our adoption from Vietnam.

What will we do if the Hague says "NO"? I don't know.

This is all starting to be too much for me.